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Great Ways to Say I Love You to Your Spouse

by Sheri Stritof

Originally published HERE by LiveAbout.com Updated May 23, 2019


The best ways to say “I love you” to your spouse are usually in simple, everyday, seemingly unimportant ways. Leo Buscaglia, who wrote and taught about love, said: “Words and deeds that say ‘You enrich my life’ go on forever.”


Winifred M. Reilly put the importance of saying “I love you” well saying “As couples, we express love through our everyday actions — our gestures of kindness, our generosity, our attention, our touch. We say, ‘Drive safely.’ ‘Take an umbrella.’ We kiss each other goodnight. And our spouse hears, ‘I love you,’ in a way that touches more deeply than words.”
Here are some suggestions on how to say “I love you” so that your love for one another goes on forever.


  • Make sure you say “I Love You” at least once each day to your spouse.




  • Give your mate an unexpected hug, a surprisingly romantic kiss, or a teasing tickle often.


  • Be spontaneous and surprising with winking at each other, whisking your spouse away for an unexpected weekend alone, star-gazing together, taking a walk in the rain with one another.


  • Share memories by looking at old photographs and talking about memories you share together.


  • Schedule a day to just be leisurely together.



  • Share why you love your spouse.


  • Give the gift of your time by doing chores for your spouse that your spouse doesn’t like to do, such as folding the clothes, running an errand, washing the car, etc.



  • Smile.


  • Schedule date nights.




  • Serve breakfast in bed.


  • Dance with your spouse in your own living room.


  • Hold hands.


  • Plan and cook a meal together.


  • Say I love you in a different language.




Hints and Tips About Where to Leave Love Notes — From Readers

These hints and tips about leaving love notes for your spouse were contributed by our readers.


  • “My husband (boyfriend at the time) was away on a business trip and I went to visit him. Before I left I left him notes everywhere. The cereal box, his coat pockets, his tackle box, I unfolded his socks and tucked in notes. He was away for 6 months; he was still finding notes even after he got home. To this day if he goes out of town I will leave little notes for him in his suitcase so he knows I’m waiting for him when he gets home.” ~~ contributed by Romantic thru and thru, Bridget B.


  • “NO where should it be where he might unknowingly uncover it while at work in front of co-workers. I had a friend who did that once — and it was a bit inappropriate and quite embarassing. A sexy note is great — but you have to make sure it is left in a very private place — that’s why I like underneath his pillow or in the “sock” drawer. LOL” ~~ Rosina L.


  • “There was my hot pink note to remind him that I love him.” ~~ contributed by Cynthia W.


  • “I think the important thing is just for each other to know that you are thought about and loved.” ~~ contributed by Ada B.


  • “In case it was too lovey-dovey, I thought a little “boy-like” lingo would help me!” ~~ contributed by Cynthia W.


  • “For no apparent reason … it is so amazing to open your inbox and find a card waiting!!! Or hear a bell go off and know it is just for you!!!!” ~~ contributed by Gayna F.


  • “I look for places he always goes and also look for places where he’ll be surprised completely at a time when I may even forget, such as his glove box in the car. Occasionally I add chocolate kisses!” ~~ contributed by C.P.


  • “29 years of married life, and he still finds ways to surprise me!” ~~ contributed by Judi S.